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Making room: taking someone out of your heart, quietly
Friendships have seasons. Here's how to free a place in Philos without a scene, what changes for each of you, and how to undo it if you change your mind.
Everything we’ve written on friendship.
What research says about close friends, loneliness and the small acts that keep people close.
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Our thinkingStrong ties, weak ties: who belongs in your 49
The friend of a friend who found you a job, and the sister who'd drive through the night. Why you need both kinds of tie, and why Philos is built for the second.
Our thinkingThe moai: Okinawa's circles of friends for life
In Okinawa, groups of friends meet for decades, some since primary school. Where the moai came from, Europe's own versions, and how to start one with your people.
Our thinkingWhy a short message means more than you think
We put off messaging old friends because it feels awkward. Research with thousands of people found they're far gladder to hear from us than we expect.
GuidesVoice messages: when typing won't do
Hold the mic, talk, let go. How voice messages work on Philos, how to lock, pause and listen back before sending, and why a voice lands differently.
Our thinkingLonely, with hundreds of followers
We've never been so connected, and governments now appoint ministers for loneliness. Why a feed full of people can still leave you hungry, and what feeds us instead.
Our thinkingWhat 88 years of the Harvard happiness study found
Since 1938, Harvard researchers have followed hundreds of lives from youth to old age. Their clearest finding isn't about money or fame. It's about your people.
Our thinkingThe Christmas card list behind Dunbar's number
An anthropologist counted Christmas cards and found the shape of our friendships. What Dunbar's number says, what it doesn't, and where 49 fits in.
GuidesWho to add first: your first five places
Your heart has room for 49, but the first five matter most. Who to add first, how to invite them, and why there's no rush to fill the rest.
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